There are people who are downright evil and they show it to you just so you’ll be afraid of them. These people gain their power by intimidating others. And then there is the second type of people who are secretly evil, and they may appear to be really nice kind of people, but deep down they are even worse than those who show it to you. Watch out for people like that in your life and make sure to stay away from them the next time they leech onto you.
1, They make themselves a victim.
一，他们把自己当成受害者。
Instead of making you a victim, these people will make themselves one instead. In whatever situations they encounter, they make it seem like they are forced to do something, or they were unintendedly getting blamed, and by making themselves look weak and vulnerable, they then use this to gain supporters to get stronger. This sounds like a great strategy but in actual they are just being pathetic.
2, They act differently to different people.
二，他们在不同人面前有不同的行为。
There is always this one person who vents to you about all their problems, about how someone they don’t like once pissed them off and how much they hated them, but then when they turned around to talk to the person they were referring to, they suddenly became another person and being all nice and friendly. You would totally be confused by people like that, but once you recognize this trait in someone, know that you should just stay away from them.
3, They tell everyone about their good deeds.
三，他们告诉每个人他们做过的好事。
These people don’t do good deeds for the sake of the society and helping people. They are only doing it for themselves, just so people will see how nice they are, and they get to tell you how nice of a person they really are. They will do things deliberately in front of others just to prove their “kindness.” Remember, genuinely nice people will do good deeds but they will never use it to make themselves sound good.
4, They vent about their lives to you.
四，他们在你面前埋怨他们的生活。
They will tell you all the nice things they do, but at the same time complaining about their life to you, just to make you see how they are “good people” who don’t deserve a terrible life. One of the worst things they can tell you is about how they do all the good deeds but never get appreciated. For example, they are always the ones helping out people in their classes, but they never get the respect they think they deserve from others, and they will vent about all that to you.
5, They promote themselves to be saints.
五，他们都把自己显得像圣人。
They are always helping others out, and they are always very kind to everyone. They make everyone thinks that they are flawless and a saint, or an angel from the sky. But in the backstage, they tell you about all their good deeds to you, and that they are doing all those things because they “genuinely” want to help others and helping others is in their nature. No matter how much they tell you, never fall for it. People who are actually kind are the ones in silence.
6, They only get close to you when they need help.
六，他们只是要你帮助时才接近你。
You might think that they are nice when they approached you, ask you questions about your family or even buy you something to eat, but then somehow the motives will appear, that is they need your help. You might feel bad to not help because they seemed nice that’s why they approached you, or they had bought you food. If you truly don’t want to help, then just say no, and stay away from them. If you let them win once, they will take advantage of it and keep making use of you.
7, They are secretly manipulating you.
七，他们悄悄地在控制你。
Ever realized when you started hanging out with a new person, you started asking you to do things shamelessly but you’re too afraid to reject them? If they are trying to make you do things you don’t want to do, then these are the toxic people that are secretly manipulating you. They’ll ask you for a favor and if you do not accept it, they started to do things to make you feel guilty, so you ended up agreeing with them even though you are reluctant to. These people are totally toxic and people you should avoid.
8, They want people to reciprocate their help.
八，他们要别人回报。
These people don’t just help others for the sake of helping and being kind. They do it because they want others to return them a favor. Initially, they will be all nice and help you out when you need it, and then come the next time, they’ll want your help and will tell you things like “remember that time when I helped you pay for your fries?” or somewhere along the line. They actually remember all the “good deeds” they had done just so they can use you in the future.
9, They get angry for minor details.
九，他们为微小的事情而生气。
We all get angry, and that is normal. But when some people get angry of minor things, even in the way someone talks to them, then that is the first sign you should stay away from those people. They spend their time taking in every single minor detail and then use those details to build hatred on someone, and they might even make you believe that the person they dislike does not deserve anything good in their lives.
10, They don’t do as they say.
十，他们说到做不到。
There are people who would say a whole lot of things, such as how they would help you when you need help, and they will be there for you whenever you are in need of a friend, and they make it sound believable, and even try to convince you that they will be. But when you really do need their help or shoulder, they suddenly turned into a different person and started making excuses just to avoid you themselves. If this is not a sign of toxic people, then there really isn’t any toxic people in the world.
Living in our society can be dangerous because there are tons of people out there who would do harmful things for whatever reason they bring. It is crucial to recognize the signs of these people and not let them get to you and take advantage of your life in any way.
