Trying to step out of your shell and be more independent is a huge step for everyone. When we are growing up we rely on our parents, and when we’re in school we rely on our friends. It can be difficult, terrifying even, to think of how when we enter adulthood we need to deal with many things on our own. Here are some things that will help you step up to be a more independent person for women.
1, Stand up for yourself.
一，站在自己的立场。
We often find it difficult to stand up for ourselves because sometimes letting people step all over us and let people have things their way is easier than getting into an argument if something went wrong. But if you continuously become a person who let people take advantage of you, you’ll never be more independent. The next time, let your voice be heard and stand by your own opinions.
2, Know your limits.
二，知道你的极限。
It is great to be fearless and courageous, but it is also important when or where to draw a line. Know what your weaknesses are so you know you are not pushing yourself to the limit and you are actually doing things that are within your own range. You can be a superwoman, but there will always be things that you are not inclined at, and it is best that you understand what that thing is.
3, Don’t bottle up your feelings.
三，不要把你的心情累积起来。
Often times we bottle our feelings up without even realizing. When we are sad, angry, scared, we just keep everything in ourselves, thinking that it would go away in time. But the thing is that our feelings are really strong. They will remain with us, and if you do not try to resolve it they would just keep piling on and the next thing you know you will break down from all the feelings.
4, Don’t be afraid to be alone.
四，不要害怕单独。
To be independent focuses a lot of being comfortably alone. There are people who can go by a day being all by themselves naturally (such as introverts) but for people who prefer company more, it is important to learn to take things on their own and be by themselves comfortably. When you are alone, you have no one but yourself to rely on, that’s how that will become more independent.
5, Take your own responsibilities.
五，承担你的责任。
People who are independent do not push their responsibilities around as if it is a huge ball. They know what they need to do on their to-do list and they do it accordingly. In fact, they might even do it in advance just to make use of their time efficiently. Trying to do things on your own will eventually become a habit which would make you more independent.
6, Don’t be a follower.
六，不要成为追随者。
Regardless of fashion or culture, being a follower can do more harm to you than you think. Independent people do not follow things just so they can get accepted by society. They focus on what makes them happy and comfortable and follow along with their own line. They don’t allow the society to define them, they have their own definition.
7, Be respectful to others.
七，尊敬别人。
Even if you are having the worst day of your life, never forget to be respectful to others. Your angry can be forgotten, but your words and actions wouldn’t. Don’t put out your anger on other people, try to deal with things on your own, and leave others out of it. If you show your anger to others, that only defines who you are, and not even in a good way.
8, Don’t compare yourself with others.
八，不要和别人比较。
Many of us have a habit of wanting to compare and be better than others. This can lead back to our childhood when our parents tried to compare us with other kids, making it a need for competition with others. However, learn to congratulate others instead of pushing them down. Look up to people when they have achieved something and be aspired to like them.
9, Take good care of your health.
九，照顾好你的健康。
Being independent is not just about your behavior in life, but your health plays a huge role as well. People who are independent knows that they need to make sure their health is in check in order to live a meaningful life. They make sure they watch their diet and that they are providing enough exercises to their body.
10, Don’t be too desperate to get in a relationship.
十，不要急着交往。
With all the couple related posts on social media and even couples you see in real life, it can be tempting to want to get into a relationship yourself, because you might think that is what that would make you happy. But know that no one but yourself can make you happy. Don’t get in a relationship for the sake of it, only be in a relationship that means a lot to you.
11, Do things efficiently.
十一，有效率地做事。
To be independent involves a lot of time management as well. Independent people will plan things out so that they would not waste much of their time. They would not waste time doing useless things, such as getting involved in meaningless talks or daydreaming. They would make full use of their time doing things so that they can have free time for other things they truly enjoy.
12, Be happy on your own.
十二，不要把快乐依赖在别人。
It is important to know that no one but yourself has the power to bring you happiness. Don’t let other people the power to control your happiness, regardless of your other halves, your friends or even your family. Know that you are the control center of your feelings and give yourself the power to do so to make sure you are feeling positive most of the time.
13, Learn to say no.
十三，学习拒绝别人。
Rejecting others can be a tough thing because you might not want to offend others while saying no to them. So you end up being a people pleaser, doing things as people wants to you and making you feel as vulnerable. To be independent is a lot of focusing on yourself and less on others. Learn to reject others when you need to. If they walk away, you know they are not worth your time.
14, Put yourself first.
十四，把自己放为第一。
Along the time of the previous point, you need to learn to say no in order to put yourself first. Do things that satisfy you, that makes you happy, that makes you succeed, and after you’ve achieved what you want, then you can focus your energy on others. Always remember that no one is as important as you yourself. Always go after your needs before entertaining others.
These are some ways for you to get started to be a more independent girl. It might take effort and time to grow up into a different and better person, but know that once you’ve become a more independent person, your life would feel more achieved and you will feel better about yourself.
