This Is What ‘Self-Care’ REALLY Means, Because It’s Not All Salt Baths & Chocolate Cake

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This Is What ‘Self-Care’ REALLY Means, Because It’s Not All Salt Baths & Chocolate Cake

09-Jan-2023
By storyteller24

Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.


It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.


It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don't want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you're not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.


True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don't need to regularly escape from.


And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.


It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn't going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualising your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.


The act of self-care has become yet another thing women are expected to be good at. Did you use the right filter for that 'gram of your impeccably prepared acai bowl? Are the candles you just lit in your Snap story made from organic hand-poured soy or are they that mass-produced factory shit? And how can we stem the inevitable capitalist tide from turning something as simple as self-care into yet another thing to be bought and sold? These are all things I wrestle with as I order Dominos in sweatpants under the guise of 'being good to myself.'


It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to "fix yourself" and start trying to take care of yourself...and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.


It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn't something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you arent universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren't anxious and dependent on other people.


It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.


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