As we all know, Muslim men in Malaysia are allowed to be in polygamous relationships. Under Islamic law, Muslim men can have up to four wives as long as they are mentally and financially stable, be fair to all wives and have an in-depth knowledge of Islam. While it is not widely practised, it has always been a debate as to whether or not it should be practised.
Recently, a Twitter user with the username @FadzilahMamat, posted a Tweet on her page that says "Some fathers are proudly sharing polygamy tips, apparently all their wives are living peacefully. Ever asked your kids how they feel? Are all the kids happy?" and this Tweet went viral with many who grew up with polygamous parents sharing their opinions and how it affected them.
Ayah kemain bangga bagi tips poligami konon isteri semua hidup aman damai. Pernah tanya perasaan anak-anak? Anak-anak semua happy ke?— Fadzilah Mamat (@FadzilahMamat) May 7, 2022
Let's take a look at what some of them have to say:
Translation: I was born in a polygamous family and I stand by my decision to not be polygamous because I understand the feelings of a child looking for their father when he isn't staying at their home that night.
Translation: As the eldest son in a polygamous family (mother is the 1st wife), since 30 years ago, the first time I heard about my father marrying another woman, I felt like just punching him... There are so many stories but I can confirm that sons from polygamous families will not be polygamous!
Translation: Last time my father decided to marry another woman. My mother disagreed but I agreed under 1 condition, once he married another, all his property, assets and investments belongs to his kids and my mother. We did it in black and white. But then, he changed his decision and decided not to get married because the conditions were too high.
Actually, the hidden message to my dad back then is if he is brave enough to marry another, then do it knowing that he will lose his assets. A price to bargain for a price. The other woman? Broke up, don't know where went, she got lost in the midst of everything.
Translation: As a child of a father who is in 3 polygamous marriages, I am suffering as the youngest child. I always feel like a burden because my mom single-handedly supports all 7 of us. Since I was young I never felt the love of a father. Sometimes when he comes home, we all push each other to be the one who opens the door for him. When I turned Form 1, my dad was no longer there.
Translation: When I found out that my dad married another when I was younger, I was confused, but I did not think much about it. Now when I have found the person I really love, my heart pains so much for my mother every day. Only now do I understand how painful it is, Now, I only respect him because he is my dad. Not him as a person.
Translation: As the eldest daughter, I had to take care of and calm down my younger siblings if my parents are fighting. I was 12 when my father told us. I felt very angry and disappointed with my dad. Maybe our parents think we don't understand, but the children are the ones who normally end up being the victim of polygamy issues.
Translation: not happy at all.. never wanted my children to experience the same.. Traumatised when choosing men.. always scared .. always careful..
Do you come from a family with polygamous parents? Share your story or thoughts on polygamy in the comments section.