Financial disparity can put a strain on a relationship, but to what extent? Considering the ever-progressive era we‘re living in that constantly defies the status quo, any unorthodox theories regarding relationships would naturally receive better judgment now, especially as society continues to evolve.  

That being said, many are still comfortable in their stance in conforming to certain traditional rules— men being the breadwinner for the family, for example. However, that patriarchal idea has slowly lost its appeal as we embrace the roles of stay-at-home dads and other domestic roles that men are now taking part in. 

But let's take it one step back and consider looking at it from a pre-marital stage lens. Would you date someone who makes less money than you? 

Reasons It May Not Work:

1. Imbalance Power Dynamic

Unless you're dating a man who wouldn't mind the difference in paychecks, the subject of power dynamic will likely arise between you and your partner if he's the kind to be particularly concerned about his dominant role in the relationship, or lack thereof. 

2. Financial Security Concerns

Of course, the question of financial stability will inevitably float to the surface amidst such discussion. You may be earning well for yourself, but would you be willing to give up that comfort for the sake of your partner who earns significantly less? 

3. A Toll On Masculinity

You might be okay with earning more, but your partner may not. Insecurity is a silent killer in any relationship, and problems tend to manifest where security is completely absent. Your partner may feel personally inadequate for his lack of financial contribution in the relationship and may express his self-doubt in problematic ways. 

Reasons It May Work: 

1. The Capability To Earn Isn't Gender-Specific

The biggest opposing argument against the discussion of financial disparity in relationships is that men should uphold their traditional position as the sole provider. However, that particular status quo is slowly losing its relevance. Men are no longer so tightly shackled in their toxic masculinity to fully accept their women's capability in wearing the pants in the relationship. 

2. The Idea Of A "Normal Relationship" Is Outdated

To put it simply, a definition of a normal relationship varies from one couple to another and you'd be surprised at how many of them are perfectly comfortable with their men earning less than them. Truly, this is the era of independent women— we care less about your pocket and more about our own. 

3. The Good Ol' Days Are Long Gone

Take the prime minister of New Zealand, for example. Jacinda Ardern's husband Clarke Gayford has taken a role as a stay-at-home father ever since she has taken office. As far as we're concerned, New Zealand is doing great. (so much that other countries are lowkey jealous.) Point is, it could work. 

What do you think? Would you, personally, date someone with smaller paycheck than yours? Feel free to share your thoughts.