If you’ve clicked on this article, chances are you're looking for some semblance of reassurance or a second opinion on whether or not you should walk away, or stay.
We're here for you. Here are 5 relationship red flags to look out for if happiness is of your utmost priority.
When you're in an argument, does your partner take the time to listen to your point of view, or do they tend to point out your shortcomings at the very first opportunity? If they're quick to pass the blame instead of addressing the problem at hand, that's a tell-tale sign of an immature communication style. A good partner will dig the roots of the problem and try to find a consensus. In other words, it should always be you vs the problem, not you vs the other person.
While we're on the subject, if silent treatment seems to be your partner's language every single time an argument arises, that relationship is not worth saving.
| 2 They Set Unrealistic Standards
Yes, every person has a set of criteria they look for in a partner; it's normal. But the line is crossed when one gets a little bit too obsessive over it. If you find that your partner tend to impose their unrealistic standards on you, just so you could be “enough” for them, it's better to walk out that door unless you don't mind enduring the heavy insecurities that come with that "responsibility".
There's a difference between adjusting your behaviors to benefit the relationship in the long run and practically being forced to shed your entire skin to become a whole new person they'd think would serve them best.
| 3 When They Struggle To Make You Their Priority
If you tend to make excuses for your partner for the way they behave, you know this is about you. Yes, you both are allowed to have separate lives outside of your relationship but when it comes to matters of actual importance (like putting your concerns into consideration), you shouldn't need to beg for a spot on their priority list.
| 4 Controlling Behavior
Sure, it's cute when they get jealous; but there's a fine line between a sweet, protective partner and a downright psychopath who suck the joy out of you. If you find yourself being authorized down to what kind of post you can post on social media and what kind of clothes you're allowed to wear, there comes a point where you need to ask yourself— "Am I dating a prison guard?"
If the answer is yes, then you gotta call it quits.
| 5 If The People You Trust Don't Approve
In any kind of relationships, there are bound to be disapprovers. But, when it comes to your own (trusted) circles, maybe they're worth listening to. Your loved ones are simply looking out for you and their protective instincts usually allow them to see things that you may have overlooked (because you're too busy looking at your relationship through rose-tinted glasses).
So, put your egos aside and listen when your friend comes up to you expressing their doubts in the person you're dating. That, or expect to be told "I told you so!" in the next couple of months.
