Being confident is so much more than wearing a powerful looking attire and working in a huge company with a high position. Many things can be considered to make any woman more confident. It is not just how you wear or your job, but your attitude and behavior matters as well. Here are some behaviors you should have in order to be a more confident woman.

1, Don’t be defeated by failures.

一，不要被失败击败。

Failures are just stepping stone to success. When you encounter any failures during your life, don’t give up, view them as lessons that guide you to your final success. After all, the biggest failure is not failing itself, but giving up. Confident people know that no matter how many failures they encounter, they will still get to their success someday, as long as they do not give up.

2, Don’t be afraid to be yourself.

二，不要害怕成为自己。

We are much better at being other people than ourselves. This is because when we act like others, we have an assurance that we will be accepted by others, whereas when we are ourselves in public, people might be very judgemental and critical of us. This is not the case to confident people, who aren’t afraid to show themselves to the world. No amount of judgment could make them back out.

3, Be aware of your feelings.

三，注意你自己的情绪。

Hiding our feelings is like a temporary escape, where we can ignore them and live as if we nothing is going wrong. The thing about having our feelings hidden is that we will bottle up our feelings, and in time when the bottle is filled up, we would turn into a volcano and burst our feelings out, regardless of what others think. This is not the case for confident people. They know how to deal with their feelings and they would never harm their mental health by dealing with it healthily.

4, Do the talk.

四，说到做到。

Many people have a loud voice to say the things they want to do, but not many of them actually have the courage to take the step. These people ended up making a lot of broken promises. However, confident people will give themselves the motivation to do the talk. Whatever they tell others, they would do it, even if it takes time or energy. They would not let a little obstacle stop them from working on their tasks.

5, Think before your actions.

五，在行动前想清楚。

So many of us are unaware of the actions that we ended up offending many people that we weren’t even aware of. But this can be avoided if we just think it through what we want to convey to others. Of course, don’t try to hide truth just so others wouldn’t be offended. Confident people know the right things to say at the right time. They wouldn’t try to sugar-coat things and know how to deliver when being honest.

6, Put yourself in others’ shoes.

六，把自己放在别人的看法。

Everyone lives a different life, and many failed to realize that and ended up being rude to others because of that. The thing is, if you are not sure about other people’s story, then try not to make your own judgment. Instead, put yourself in their shoes and understand what they are going through. Confident people do that and they would never segregate people due to their wealth or position.

7, Don’t compare yourself with others.

七，不要和别人比较。

Everyone is good in their own way. Never make yourself look more superior to people who are less fortunate than you, and never bring yourself down by comparing yourself with people who the society deemed “better than you.” Own who you are and what you do. Confident people know that everyone is good in their own ways, and the only person they are comparing to is themselves.

8, Don’t ignore your instinct.

八，不要忽略你的直觉。

Sometimes, our instinct is the one that makes the best decisions in our lives. But often times we ignore it because they seem unreasonable, and we often outweigh other things over them and ended up making a bad decision. Confident people trust their instinct and they know that they are the ones who will bring a good change in their lives.

9, Don’t feel the needed to please others.

八，不要凡事为别人。

A lot of times we prevent ourselves from acting a certain way because we are afraid of what others might think of us. We ended up losing our real self just so we can please others and get accepted. However, people who are confident are brave enough to do whatever they want to do, as they know they do not need to get acceptance from others to be happy. They are responsible for that happiness.

10, Take good care of yourself.

十，照顾好你自己。

Many people go on diets and exercise excessively just so they will look a certain way that is deemed “attractive” by society. Sure you can achieve your ideal body, but that doesn’t mean you are completely healthy. Confident people care about their health, but they do it for the sake of their own physical and mental health instead of wanting people to view them as “attractive.” They know that if they are healthy, they will have the energy to be healthy.

These are some of the things that confident women would know and do. They wouldn’t try to please others, because they know pleasing themselves is all that it would matter. Whatever they do, they are doing it for themselves, not others. Wanting to be confident is more of a lifestyle than an attitude or behavior, so aim to be more confident for yourself for life, not just for a temporary moment.

“I’m so lost right now. And sad. And terribly lonely. Even the birds have something to sing about, though they’ve not heard the thousands of songs that are played on the radio. Even the stars have someone to shine down upon, kissing the faces of loved ones that have been left behind. The skies have more emotions than me, from the rage of thunder and lightning to the sadness of gentle rain, crying over the loss of someone important. Everything has something to cry over or smile about and I’m just here, so damn numb, I can’t even feel my own heart beating.”