Pandemic has forced people to change their life routine. Some people were isolated from their family members; some people lost their jobs. Many students had to stop their education until further notice. This is the time where all of us should stand together and support each other. Here is what you could say if anyone is sharing their worry to you.
Did you have a bad day? Do you want to talk about it?
Angry people are usually sad people. Most of the time they were actually sad but it’s difficult for them to embrace their sadness. As being sad is often equate to showing weakness which that is not true. So, they disguise their sadness into anger yet deep down they were upset.
Is there anything I could do to make you feel better?
Knowing what’s the right word to say could break the barrier between people. Saying this line is telling them that you are ready to help. It’s important to ask them more than once, they might need some time to sort out their thought. Despite, in the end, they didn’t utter any words. That’s okay, at least they know that there are people like you care deeply about them.
I am sure you are doing the best you could.
Anyone that approached you to talk about their problems it’s because they are worried, self-doubting, clueless, not sure whether they are doing the right things or just lost. It’s important to give them affirmation or assurance. Regardless of what they did, saying this line could be their great comfort. It’s not in our position tell them how well they did, as they are the exact person who went through their life process.
Be attentive when talking to your friends or your family. Hold a safe space and judgmental free zone for them. If you don’t have something nice to say, just listen. If you know someone who is struggling, please ask them to seek professional advice.
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