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"She didn‘t report to the HR or at least to her husband about getting harassed by her boss. Because she can't risk to lose her job."

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The above statement is from Reddit where a woman shared her story of getting harassed by her boss yet she couldn't do anything about as it involved her livelihood and her husband's job as well. Here is a snippet of her stories:"Her usual smile just fell off and she confessed that he's been doing that to her for a few years now. Demanding to meet at odd places, offering to give her a ride home (even though her husband work in the very same building), and worst of all, playfully dragging her into the walk-in chiller and leaving marks on her arms by gripping too hard. All she could do was struggle and run before things went bad."Why is this norm happening in Malaysia?The law is not protecting the victim enoughSome laws provide some outline of the scope of sexual harassment yet it's not comprehensive enough. The relevant sexual harassment law can be found in the Penal Code and Employment Act. Yet, both laws have great flaws. 1. Penal Code- It does not really punish the harasser as there would be only a fine to be imposed on them. It does not protect the victim if the harasser still works in the same company. The sad reality is victim usually the one gets the stigmatization and victim shaming after the tragic incident. Also, there isn't a right way to investigate sexual harassment case by the police. The authority did not have a proper guideline for the police officer to handle specifically to sexual harassment cases. Try to imagine a victim needs to tell her story in details over and over again during the investigation. For the police officer that unfamiliar with the procedure, it is akin to make the victim relive the horrible experience again. This process can be so hurtful and detrimental to the victim and cause them to drop the charge against the harasser. 2. Employment Act-It is not mandatory or compulsory for the employer to practice workplace sexual harassment code of practice. For instance, if the employer did not feel like the case is worth investigating, he or she could choose to let it go. As the law is voluntary, it doesn't compel the employer to do so. If you have a bad boss that doesn't care about your well being, essentially you will not be protected.Read the UM Legal Review and WAO article for more information.Men could be the victim as wellHere are some male victim's stories from Reddit for the reference:1. When my bf was 5, he was playing with his neighbour who was 16. Things were normal, until one day when they were in the lift and that dude took out his pants, spread his cheeks, and asked my bf to lick his asshole.2. An older guy flashed at my male friend when he was a kid.Whether or not these stories are real, we definitely do not want this to happen to any guy. But, it is important to know that, these incidents are definitely happening out there. Society is more likely to be oblivion to male victims as most of the harassment cases were from women. Also, there is this sickening mentality of the society that men are strong and it's impossible to harass a man. Because of this sickening mentality, it makes the male victim even more difficult to seek help and tell the truth. The truth is men can feel uncomfortable and get harassed by people as well. Here is what you could do1. Sign the petition created by AWAM Malaysia. You could either sign in person at their PJ office or sign this online petition. 2. Read more relevant articles or follow the relevant social media content to educate yourself. Follow WAO and AWAM Malaysia. Educate yourself on the right thing, such as what amount to sexual harassment instead of treating sexual harassment as unprofessional behaviour. Malaysian women's perception of sexual harassment is very different than what we imagined based on this article. 42% of women do not consider the act of stalking, to be a form of sexual harassment but classify it as unprofessional behaviour. Hence, it is important to know the right thing before you could protect yourself. You need to know that you are in danger before you could take any action.3. If you want to be heard, make a statement. Consistently. Start from telling to your family members about your incident, then report to the HR. If the HR didn't do something about it, discuss it with your colleagues. If the company/HR did not create a safe space for you, you create a safe space for your friends or colleagues. Let them realise that it is wrong to do to stay silent and encourage them to speak up. Speaking up might not guarantee that you will be heard, but not speaking up definitely let the harasser getaway. Speaking up or reporting to the HR is not making a big fuss. If you stay silent, your life is going to turn into a fuss. Cover Photo Source : China Briefing.com | Emplois specialises
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Love Man Women

Love language is fundamental in a relationship – Why is that?

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Love is a universal word that everyone understood. Whether you are talking to a Chinese, Indian, Korean or Latino. When you say the word ‘love’, no one would ever need more contexts for the word. The word itself has such a diverse interpretation of it based on different people. But, did you know that there is a language for love? What is Love Language?    Gary Chapman is the man behind this concept. His first book about love language was published in 1992 and he has sold 11millions copies of the book since then. Love language includes words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch and receiving gifts. He believes that love will transform into these languages during daily interaction with your love one. However, among these, there would be one as their primary language. The rest of it would rank differently after taking a test. So, where can we take the test? You can get tested online.   There is this website that you could take a test to assess what’s your primary love language. It takes around 10 minutes to complete the test. You are required to answer a few questions in the test. The result will be shown in the end. What happens next after the test?It’s time to break down the meaning of love language.   Did you realize that some people are touchy or expressive towards their partner? Some are not expressive, but they have always spent time with their partner. That’s because all of us might have a different primary language with each other. For example, if your primary language of love is:1. Words of affirmation—you enjoy hearing compliments from your partner, or you feel joy when they say they are proud of you.2. Physical touch—getting a hug or holding hands make you feel happy.3. Quality time—both of you spend the effort to make time to have a date or fun activities together. 4. Acts of Service—your partner offers help to run errands.5. Receiving gift—when your partner travels for work and brought you a gift.Then, what if you and your partner do not share the same love language? Fear not! You could still learn their love language. Relationship is all about learning and discovering each other's difference. It is a lifelong task to be done.
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I Love Him, But He Keeps Ignoring Me | 8 One-Sided Love Quotes

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It is painful whereby we like someone and stubbornly treats him/ her in our own way. Sometimes, we may feel bitter in our hearts to look at the "seen" symbol on Whatsapps, However, sometimes we still couldn't stop ourselves from thinking and hoping that the person we love will reply soon. It then turns out that only we are unable to free ourselves from the one-sided love.#1. I was born again because of your love, but I died for the same reason.   #2. I’m not sure what scares me more, that you will never start loving me, or that I will never stop loving you.       #3. I love dreaming because in my dreams, you’re actually mine.   #4. I tried to hate you but the only thing I hated is how much I loved you.   #5. Why do I feel so far away from you even though you are sitting right next to me?     #6. It’s funny how a person can break your heart, and you can still love them with all the little pieces.     #7. Come back to me I need your love.     #8. It hurts when you have someone in your heart but you can’t have them in your arms.     Cover Photo: Pinterest | Pinterest
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Love Women Man

What should you get for him/her during Christmas? Lovely Christmas gift idea for LDR couples

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As Christmas is approaching, are you scratching your head looking for Christmas gift for your loved one? The task has become harder this year for LDR couples as they are unable to celebrate together during this festive season. Fear not, we are here to help you. I have listed some cute Christmas gift ideas for you to make reference:# Long Distance Touch LampI think this gift is the coolest and trendiest among all and I personally find that the long distance touch lamps are meant for LDR couples. There are various types long distance touch lamp in the market which features different size and design to meet your preference. Once you connected the lamp over internet and linked to each other’s lamp, it will light up the other when tapping one of the lamps. You loved one would know you’re thinking of him/her when they see the lamp has been lighted up.  # Scratch Off World MapIf both of you enjoy travelling and had promise to travel the world together, this scratch off map might suit you the best. Your loved one can scratch off the places where you both been together and recalled all the sweet memories that you both have been through. Besides, he/she can also start to decide or plan for next place to be scratched off (to visit together). # Couple Matching ItemsThis might be the most popular gift ideas among all, ranging from matching outfit to matching phone cover. Even though you’re not able to be by their side all the time, these matching items would remind them of you every time they see it. Also, you may get your loved one to put on the matching outfit when you are having Facetime or Video Call to create the atmosphere.  # Temperature Control MugIf he/she is a coffee lover, this might be the best gift to make them think of you. Once he/she sets the desired temperature, the mug will maintain the same temperature for the whole day. Your loved one would never have to worry that the coffee will turns cold. Every sip of hot coffee would make them feel grateful to have you as their loved one. 
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Christmas is around the corner, how do celebrate if you're in LDR? 6 cute ideas for LDR couples to celebrate Christmas

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When you’re in a long distance relationship (LDR), we all know that it is a challenge to make time and do things together with your loved one. It becomes tougher when the pandemic is in the way where most of the country borders will remain closed for the rest of 2020. Anyway, here are some ideas for you to spend a romantic Christmas with your LDR partner. You can make this Christmas as unforgettable as anyone else’s with some little extra efforts. 1. FIX A VIRTUAL DATEFind the best time and set up the mood with some wine or even candles and have dinner together over Skype/Facetime. You can try to recreate the atmosphere as if you both are together.2. CHRISTMAS GIFT EXCHANGE You can put together a care package or get them the gift they have been wishing for so long and send in advance through mail. There is nothing like the joy that comes with unwrapping a gift from your LDR partner and finding out how they remembered getting you the gift that you have spoken to them about. With the advance of technology and online shopping platform, you can create surprise for your loved one with your fingertips. 3. COUPLE MATCHING OUTFITSAlthough you can’t share the same room but you can try sharing the same outfits and make the moment unforgettable. You can also send the matching outfits as Christmas gift and ask them to put it on together after unwrapping it.4. WATCH MOVIES TOGETHERYou can come up with a Christmas movie list together and watch them together online. There is a lot of Apps or services for you to watch movie simultaneously while you are physically apart. For instance, if you have a Netflix subscription, you can use Netflix Party and invite your partner to get the party started. Otherwise, you can also use Rabbit or Together Tube to create a private room for just the two of you.5. GO OUT, HAVE FUN AND SHAREAs you can’t look at Christmas lights and decorations together, you can take photos and share with your partner. It’s always lovely to share something magical and your loved one will be pleased to know you are thinking of them. Being in a long distance relationship doesn’t mean living your life isolated from the real world. Go out and spend time with your friend and family. Do remember to snap pictures and share it with your partner so both of you can enjoy but at the same time feeling connected with each other.Cover Photo (LEFT: RIGHT)
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Male Netizen: I Am Moving To Penang Now! Malaysian Girls Are More Fond Of Tubby Men.

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Dear Malaysian girls, what kind of boy would attract you? Tubby type of man or muscular type of man? According to recent surveys, it turns out that most Malaysian women prefer tubby and elder guys. Boys, you didn't expect it, right?!   A survey from the "JustDating" dating mobile app revealed that 53% of interviewed Malaysian women prefer tubby and elder men. They think that guys with a little belly can give them a sense of security because they can hug them like a bear doll when they are lonely.It's worth noting that 70% of Penang women who love tubby and elder men are young girls aged 18 to 25.    Don't worry if you are a muscular guy because women in Selangor prefer muscular men! Women in Klang Valley who aged between 28 and 35 years old are more interested in boys who have strong thighs, strong biceps, and buttocks.    The survey also showed that women in Johor are different from women in Penang and Klang Valley. They like thin boys with long hair. 88% of women in Johor are biased towards men with artistic charm.In addition to body shape, women also said that they like to observe men's Adam's apple, especially when they drink water.Malaysian netizens say this survey is quite accurate. The male netizens (probably with a small belly) said that he is moving to Penang!Girls, what type of guy do you prefer? Guys, are you going to a new city to find your love?Source: RedChili21Cover Photo: Pinterest | Pinterest
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Top 5 Men‘s Perfume: What Men Want to Smell Like and What Women Want to Smell on Men.

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For the most parts, men prefer comfort over style, choosing to rock shorts and sandals or whatever they find in their wardrobe. However, there are still occasions when men need to dress up. It is during these times when a little perfume goes a long way at one-upping their peers. As ladies, wouldn't it be nice if your man carries an aroma that tickles your senses when you're out on a date? Here, we will look at 5 fragrances that men love to put on themselves and also equally adored by women, each catered for a different personality and style.Before we dive right into it, here's a quick guide to the different types of men's fragrances you might see while shopping for one. These types differ primarily in the oil concentration level and roughly translates to how long a scent lingers, so be sure to keep an eye out for these terms:Eau Fraiche (EF): lightweight, 1-3% oil concentration, stays for 1-2 hours.Eau de Cologne (EDC): lightweight, 2-4% oil concentration, stays for 2-4 hours.Eau de Toilette (EDT): moderate, 5-15% oil concentration, stays for around half a day.Eau de Parfum (EDP): strong, 15-20% oil concentration, stays for 4-5 hours.Parfum (P): strong, 20-30% oil concentration, stays for around the entire day.1. Chanel Bleu De | EDP | Woody, Aromatic The Chanel Bleu De carries a fresh woody aroma reaped from New Caledonian Sandalwood. A deeper appreciation reveals notes of cedar and Tonka bean, making it a fragrance that represents masculine charms and hormones. The simple yet elegant bottle with a suction cap design is also tailor-made for men. This fragrance by Chanel is suitable for those that are warm yet assertive, mature yet young-spirited, particularly of men between ages of 20-30 years old. 2. CK One | EDT | Citrus, Woody     CK One primarily carries a tangerine scent as its top note, giving off a fresh and bright feeling. With more flowery midnotes such as jasmine and rose, and woody base notes such as sandalwood and cedar, this fragrance is suitable for men who carry a sturdy and energetic aura. Students should consider having a look as CK One rocks an affordable price and humble bottle design. Not only that, as an EDT fragrance, it is more than suitable to be an introductory perfume for young adults.3. Bvlgari Pour Homme | EDT | Floral, Musk The Bvlgari name needs no introduction and neither does its fragrance. A thing to note is that there are 3 different fragrances under the Pour Homme category, namely the original Pour Homme, the sharper Pour Homme Extreme, and the more subtle Pour Homme Soir. Here, we are recommending the original Pour Homme. With an acceptable longevity of about half a day, it gives off a warm and fuzzy feeling. Clean and comfortable also describes this Darjeeling tea based scent and is recommended to those who would like to exude a calm and capable air.4. Terre d'Hermès | EDT | Earthy, Woody Hermès Terre d'Hermès series (which translates to earth) also contains multiple different fragrances. The one recommended here is the most original one (black cap). This fragrance carries mainly classic wood scents with a hint of spicy flint, giving you the feeling of "lying on the ground" as described by world-famous perfumer Jean-Claude Ellena. Down-to-earth, trustworthy, mature men is the perfect carrier of the scent, and thus is more recommended to adults above the age of 30. This is the perfect touch to evenings that require a well ironed suit.5. Dior Sauvage | EDT or EDP | Citrus, Woody A fragrance packed with intense masculinity, showcasing the intense and unrestrained side of men. Its top note of mandarin, bergamot and pepper, paired with a warmer cedar and sandalwood base note instantly refreshes the those in close proximity, thanks to the ambergris component and its dense composition. Compared to the more reserved scent of Chanel Beu De, the Dior Sauvage is not afraid to demonstrate a masculine charm and bring out a certain animalistic attraction. Hence, this fragrance is perfect for bold individuals with a strong charisma, worthy of a try for men above the age of 25.Alas, the best way to understand which scent is the most suitable for whom is to enquire at sales counters or purchase smaller volumes to test out. There is no one size fits all, as the perfect fragrance differs for everyone. Paired with the right personality and character, a seemingly simple bottle of perfume can be exceptional. Thus, there is no wrong in taking your time to try out different fragrances to find the perfect scent. Adding on to that, a perfume is NOT a replacement for showering or a means to cover up body odor. Never overuse a perfume. As a handy guide, spray the perfume on the neck or near the abdomen, 2 to 3 sprays at a distance of around 10 - 15 cm away is enough. This prevents any unwanted reactions from skin friction and still exudes a respectable aroma. For a longer lasting scent, put on perfume before your clothes to couple the perfume with your body temperature. "Buying a perfume is like buying the best first impression." - Mssimo Ferragamo*Cover image source (left) (right).
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Wondering About The Gumiho's Obsession? Ice-cream And Drinks That Appeared In "Tale Of The Nine Tailed"

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The drama "Tale of the Nine-Tailed" starring Lee DongWook, Jo BoAh, and Kim Bum has become the hot topic of Korean drama lovers recently. It is the action fiction story of a nine-tailed fox (Gumiho) who lived in the city and of the producer who follows him. Lee DongWook is acting as the Gumiho called Lee Yeon.If you have watched the first episode, you will find out that Lee Yeon is in love with mint chocolate ice cream and he was seen eating that flavor of ice-cream at home and at the store.It is actually the PEACOCK Yolow Mint Chocolate Chip which costs around 5,980 KRW (for 474ml). You can find out more about the product from this Korean website.Another food that appeared in this drama is the Binggrae banana milk, in which Lee Yeon drank it when investigating the missing case on the island. The Binggrae banana milk is endorsed by IU. This drink has also appeared in other popular Korean dramas such as "Guardian: The Lonely and Great God" and "Rooftop Prince".    In the second episode, Lee Rang (Kim Bum's character) hid his true self and acted like a college student, to meet with the show producer Nam Ji-ah (Jo BoAh's character) at the TV station. The drink they drank was from a brand called Coffee Bay, which is endorsed by the Lee DongWook.   If you got a chance, which one will you try?Cover Photo: IG Of Lee DongWook's Fan Page | IG Of Lee DongWook
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Love Women Man

Special Way To Commemorate Your Love | 10 Super-Romantic And Simple Couple Tattoos

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Couple selfies, couple outfits, and couple rings are too common to show cast the love between you and your partner! Here're the 10 couple tattoos for your reference. And, maybe you can find one that suits you and your partner. "If I'm The King, Then You Are My Only Queen."   "You Are The Key To My Heart."   "I'm Incomplete Without You."   "I'm Your Mr. Right, You Are My Mrs. Right."   "Infinite Love"   "The Sun And The Moon Are The Witness Of Our Love."    "You Are The Other Part Of Mine."   "We Are The Greatest Support To Each Other."   "Let's Fly Together."   "Our Hearts Beat For Each Other."   Cover Photo: Pinterest | Pinterest | Pinterest | Pinterest | Pinterest | Pinterest
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Are You The Lucky One? 18 Characteristics That A Girl Is Spoiled By Her Boyfriend

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People who truly love you will inadvertently do some caring actions. Some girls are just unknowingly spoiled by their boyfriend. Below are the 18 sweet behaviors of a boyfriend. Let’s see if you are a lucky girlfriend~#1 Leave All Your Favorites To YouHe will give you the food that you like to eat because he will be happy to see you happy and satisfied.#2 Worry About Your Physical Condition/ BodyHe will take special care of you during your menstrual period because he understands that you must be suffering during that period of time!He will also concern about your health. For example, he might want you to wear more clothes or not to drink cold drinks during your menstrual period. It is just because he doesn't want to see you sick and suffering!   #3 Send You Home At NightIt's dangerous for a girl to go home alone! He will try to send you home at night. He will feel at ease when he sees you reach home. Even if he can't send you back, he will message you to make sure you get home safely!#4 Carry Heavy Things For You Your boyfriend can’t bear to see you carry heavy items, and he always takes the initiative to help carry heavy objects.   #5 Actively Report Whereabouts And Introduce His Friends To YouThe emotions of girls are inherently unstable. Hence, it is very important for the boyfriend to give his girlfriend enough sense of security.It is a bonus point if your boyfriend is willing to take the initiative to tell you where he is and introduce his friends to you. These show that you are important in his heart.#6 Remember All Anniversaries The boyfriend who loves you will always remember the anniversary or any special day of your dating.He will also plan carefully, hoping to create more wonderful memories for both of you!   #7 Do HouseworkHe is not willing to let you do all the housework alone because he knows that doing housework is a shared responsibility among both of you. #8 Appreciate Your Hard Work And Often Praise YouHe will compliment you when he sees you beautifully dressed or when you prepare a nice meal for him.#9 Tolerate Your Emotions And Always Stay With YouNo matter if you are angry, sad, or a little willful in front of him, he will try his best to tolerate you and calm you down.Even if he is busy, he still will accompany you by your side and listen to your complaints because does not want you to face negative emotions alone.  #11 Remind You Of All Kinds Of Things In Your LifeIf you are always very careless, he will always remind you and work hard to help you get through big and small things.#12 Remember What You Like And Care About Your WishesHe will observe and listen to your needs, and remember what you want!He always thinks of you and asks for your opinions when he makes important decisions because he wants to satisfy you as much as possible.   #14 Always Coax You Back After A FightThe person who truly loves you will be willing to suppress his anger because he is unwilling to destroy the relationship. Hence, he will choose to apologize to you and coax you back.#15 Always Be Grateful For YouHe will feel that it is lucky to meet you, and he will often be grateful for what you have done for him!   #16 Maintain Polite MannerEven after being together for a long time, he will still treat you like before, such as open the door for you and let you sit inside to avoid someone hitting you. These sweet actions can only be seen from the person who loves you from the heart.   #17 Always Support And Accompany You To Do What You LikeHe is willing to accompany you to do the things that you like, such as going shopping with you or staying at home to watch a show.He also will help you without hesitation in every difficult moment. He will let you know that you are not alone.#18 Make You SmileEvery day, he will share interesting things with you or pretend to be foolish to make you laugh.   Cover Photo: Pinterest | Pinterest
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